5 ANCIENT TANTRIC TECHNIQUES TO HELP YOU FUCK LIKE A GOD
To satisfy the goddess of your dreams, the modern spiritual man must work diligently on his sexual mastery in able to meet this powerful women in the sexual realm that she deserves. One must note that this does take much work and practice. One does not become a sexual god overnight. And with most men having a masturbation practice that last under 5 minutes, how can one expect to wow their goddess in an all night tantric love fest?
The world is changing. The woman of today is far different than her obsequious 1950’s counterpart. She is powerful, she is strong, she is intelligent. She can command control of her sexual appetite and knows exactly what she wants. Not just any man will do for this modern, spiritual goddess. No, the vapid man of the past that would get what he wanted and leave his demure partner unsatisfied and unfulfilled will be accepted no longer.
To satisfy the goddess of your dreams, the modern spiritual man must work diligently on his sexual mastery in able to meet this powerful women in the sexual realm that she deserves. One must note that this does take much work and practice. One does not become a sexual god overnight. And with most men having a masturbation practice that last under 5 minutes, how can one expect to wow their goddess in an all night tantric love fest?
So where does one begin to cultivate this sexual stamina? It starts with your self pleasure practice and your porn consumption.
First, the porn has to go. No, I’m not kidding. And if you have a problem with the idea of giving up porn...well then you have a problem. Porn is an addiction and it does effect many aspects of our sex life and relationships which is discussed in the blog post: 3 Effects of Porn that are totally FUCKING UP your life
Next, practice these ancient techniques either during your solo self pleasuring practice or with a partner.
AT HOME PRACTICE NOW AVAILABLE:
5 ANCIENT TANTRIC SEX TECHNIQUES FOR MASTERING YOUR SEXUAL GODLINESS
1. IDEA TRANSFERENCE
Ancient Hindu texts state that “Semen will cease activity after raising one's head immediately, opening one's eyes, looking around, shrinking the lower abdomen belly and holding one's breath when the sperm appear to be fluctuating rapidly.”
HOW TO:
Release any touch. Without getting up completely raise your head quickly, open your eyes, begin looking around the room. Now shrink in the lower belly abdomen and hold your breath for as long as you can or until you feel the energy decreasing. Release the breath slowly while imagining the sun going down and the colors of the sunset fading.
WHY:
Mental anxiety and stress can greatly speed up the ejaculation process and become a cause of premature ejaculation. This method can help control ejaculation and prolong intercourse by shifting your attention and relieving your stress.
2. TALISMAN TRANSFERENCE
Ancient Hindu texts records a method stating that “the penis will be firm and sexual intercourse will last for a long time if one squeezes the base of the shaft with the thumb, forefinger and middle finger of the left hand while one holds a talisman in the right hand with serious intent putting one's heart and soul into it when sexual intercourse creates a build-up of sexual energy needing to be decreased.”
This method is called idea transference and works with the power of intention and transference. For it you will need a small talisman about the size of a walnut or something that will fit comfortably in the palm of your hand. A talisman is defined as “an object, typically an inscribed ring or stone, that is thought to have magic powers and to bring good luck.”
HOW TO:
Using the thumb, forefinger and middle finger of your left hand squeeze the base of your cock firmly. Now grab your talisman in your right hand squeezing with quite a bit of pressure and bringing your hand near your heart. With serious intent see all of your sexual energy being shifted from your cock into this talisman. Visualize it. Move the energy up and into this talisman.
This method can also be used the other way around. If one feels the sexual energy depleting see the talisman full of sexual energy and visualize it being transferred into your cock, filling it with vitality and power.
WHY:
Not only does this method help control ejaculation by shifting attention and relieving stress but moreover, by clenching your talisman in the right hand, it can stimulate the PC8 nadi, a type of acupressure point which belongs to the hand pericardium meridian and has the function of sedation which can directly affect intensely high states of arousal.
3. PERINEUM PRESSURE
Ancient Hindu texts state that, “semen will not come out for a long time if one presses the meridian behind the scrotum and in front of the anus using the index finger and the middle finger of the left hand, taking long exhalations and chattering one's teeth 10 times when the sperm are fluctuating rapidly and on the verge of coming out.”
HOW TO:
Between the scrotum and the anus is what is called the perineum. Place the index finger and middle finger of your left hand on this spot and press in firmly. Take a deep inhalation and exhale. Now smile and chatter your teeth counting while counting to 10. I know it sounds silly right? Maybe you don’t want to practice this one with a partner...unless she has a really awesome sense of humor!
WHY:
This technique involves pressing the front of the anus known as the RN 1 nadi in the perineum which has the ability to depress the excitability of the nervous system and thus achieve a therapeutic effect for PE. While it seems silly, the chattering of one's teeth while smiling produces numerous beneficial effects. Just by physically forcing a smile on your face, your brain gets a slight boost of all the feel-good neurotransmitters—dopamine, endorphins and serotonin. This not only relaxes your body, but it can also lower your heart rate and blood pressure. The chattering is simply used as a tool of distraction to concentrate your mind elsewhere. Try being very present and in-tune while practicing the chattering and counting.
4. TAPPING
Ancient Hindu texts state that, “by tapping on certain Nadis or meridians of the body one can depress the excitability of the nervous system and thus achieve a therapeutic effect for premature ejaculation.”
Below is a set of tapping instructions to lead you through a practice that will center your focus and disperse your sexual energy from just your cock into all the focal nadi meridians of the body. You should feel this energy traversing throughout your body coursing its way through every vein, neuron and nerve ending.
HOW TO:
Sit up slowly. With a straight back and strong core, you will go through the different points. First think of a karate chop, you are thinking of the fleshy part of the end of your palm. Begin by tapping quickly on the fleshing part between the pinky and the wrist of the left hand with all 4 fingers of your right hand.
With both hands loose use, the index and middle fingers to tap just above the eyebrows.
Now tap one the sides of each eye, the temple of the head.
Now under the eyes on the cheek bones.
Under the nose using just your right hand
Under the chin using your right hand.
Just under the collar bone using both hands.
Under the armpit, first the left side using the right hand then the right side using the left hand.
Finally, top of the head using right hand.
Take a deep breath.
Then go through this again 2 more times.
Karate chop, left hand.
Both hands over the brow.
Temples.
Under the eyes.
Under the nose.
Under the chin.
Under the collar bone, both hands.
Under the armpit, left side.
Under the armpit right side.
Top of the head.
WHY:
While it seems like a new trend, tapping the meridians of energy to stimulate or depress energy has been seen as therapeutic techniques in many ancient cultures. By going through the meridians in this specific order you are removing energetic blocks, allowing the energy to flow freely through your body and not become concentrated in your sexual center.
5. 10 Thrusts
Ancient Hindu texts state that, “Men with a low threshold can hold and fondle women gently, close their mouth and grit their teeth, place their thoughts elsewhere, insert the penis into the vagina and perform sexual intercourse following the method of 9 shallow thrusts followed by 1 deep thrust."
HOW TO:
This is a partner exercise and should be used as a meditative practice to help you continue sexual intercourse at a slow, steady pace without reaching your peak. Start by focusing inward. Let your partner know that you are still presently with her but that both of you can momentarily have a pleasurable inward experience. Close eyes and move gaze to the third eye. Focus on breath and your count. Thrust slowly and shallowly 9 times, counting to yourself. One the 10th count thrust deeply but still slowly. Stop there for a moment and apply the Kundalini root lock, mulbandh.
To apply the root lock:
Contract the anal sphincter and feel the muscles lift upward and inward.
Keep these muscles contracted and then contract the area around the sex organ. (You will experience a slight lift and rotation inward of the pubic bone that is like trying to stem the flow of urine.)
Contract the lower abdominal muscles and the navel point toward your spine.
Apply these three actions together in a smooth, rapid, and flowing motion.
Continue to repeat this for as long as you’d like or until you feel you have gained control of your sexual energy.
WHY:
The method of 9 shallow thrusts and 1 deep thrust, which progressively and gradually strengthens the stimulation of the penis, reduces the sensitivity of the penis and improves the stimulation threshold for ejaculation. The combined action of this and the body lock delays ejaculation and improves the quality of sexual life. The root lock, mulbandh, is a powerful contraction of muscles and stimulation of energies that helps to redirect sexual energy into creativity and healing energy. The root lock is often applied at the end of Kundalini exercises and meditations to seal the healing and uplifting effects and stabilize your senses.
CONCULSION
Whether you are practicing solo or with a partner you should feel empowered that you are taking control of your sexuality. You are never too young or too old to cultivate a healthy sex practice. As you become master of your body you will begin to see your life change in all areas as your attract more abundance, positivity and love. Like anything worth mastering it takes practice and dedication. So practice, often and with full dedication. I would like to imagine my mission as a vessel meant to help create an army of gods to meet my goddess sisters on an equal level of power, pleasure and all encompassing love. Thank you for your participation and for taking this journey with me. Let me know how your practice is coming along as you get closer to becoming the god, in whose image you were created.
3 Effects of Porn That are Totally FUCKING UP Your Life
With the emergence of porn becoming readily accessible at the tip of your fingers, we have become a society addicted to the intensity of pixelated gratification. Whether the occasional or habitual viewer of porn, it may be having a greater effect on your life than you know.
EFFECTS OF PORN ON THE BRAIN, YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND YOUR LIFE
The Mind as a Tool
In a culture that has begun to identify the mind as self, we need a shift to understand that the mind is merely a tool. We are not defined by it and we do not need to be controlled by it. This tool can either become your best friend or your worst enemy. During a time where imagination has taken a backseat to the views and beliefs of technology and political agenda, creation of the mind has become a sad, atrophied muscle.
Effects of Porn on the Brain
With the emergence of porn becoming readily accessible at the tip of your fingers, we have become a society addicted to the intensity of pixelated gratification. Whether the occasional or habitual viewer of porn, it may be having a greater effect on your life than you know.
1. Negative Emotion Dopamine Release
What is Dopamine
Dopamine is all about seeking and searching for rewards— the anticipation, the wanting, the gratification. Dopamine provides the motivation and drive to pursue potential rewards or long term goals.
Beyond drugs, food and adventure, sexual excitement releases the HIGHEST levels of dopamine and opioids. Reproduction is hard wired as job one in our genes and therefore has the highest output for such drives.
Negative Dump
The amount of dopamine that surges through the brain during porn activity has been recorded in staggering amounts. Although often referred to as the “pleasure molecule,” dopamine can also be released in high intensities due to emotions opposite to pleasure. These bursts of dopamine have detrimental effects on the brain, psyche and spirit at large.
Huge surges of negative dopamine release from porn are due to
Negative emotions such as: shame, guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety & fear
The drive to seek and search
The excitement of newness and things that violate expectation creating emotions of shock, awe, and surprise.
“Many of these emotional states (anxiety, shame, shock, surprise) not only elevate dopamine, but each can also boost stress hormones & neurotransmitters (norepinephrine, epinephrine, cortisol). These stress neurochemicals increase excitement while amplifying dopamine’s already powerful effects. Over time a porn user’s brain can mistake feelings of anxiety or fear for feelings of sexual arousal. This helps explain why some porn users escalate into ever more shocking or anxiety invoking porn – as they need that extra neurochemical jolt just to become sexually aroused, or to orgasm.”
~Sourced from www.YourBrainonPorn.com
2. Coolidge Effect
Another draw that porn provides is the sheer amount of novelty. One can scroll through pages and pages of arousing images and videos. They can have multiple tabs open. They can fast forward to the peak of each video. And they can do this endlessly, if so desired. Just think about the unhealthy amounts of dopamine that are surging through the brain during such activity. But the main issue with novelty goes much deeper and can be further elucidated by the Coolidge Effect.
“Here’s how the Coolidge Effect works: The rat’s reward circuitry is squirting less and less dopamine with respect to the current female, but produces a big dopamine surge for a new female. Does that sound familiar?
Not surprisingly, rats and humans aren’t that different when it comes to response to novel sexual stimuli. For example, when Australian researchers displayed the same erotic film repeatedly, test subjects’ penises and subjective reports both revealed a progressive decrease in sexual arousal. The “same old same old” just gets boring. Habituation indicates declining dopamine.
After 18 viewings—just as the test subjects were nodding off—researchers introduced novel erotica for the 19th and 20th viewings. Bingo! The subjects and their penises sprang to attention. (Yes, women showed similar effects.)
Internet porn is especially enticing to the reward circuitry because novelty is always just a click away. It could be a novel “mate,” unusual scene, strange sexual act, or—you fill in the blank.”
~Sourced from www.YourBrainonPorn.com
This effect is having a huge impact on human connection. Driven to seek dopamine through novelty creates higher levels of infidelity, preference of porn over human connection and inability to reach climax with a non-novel partner.
3. Negative Spiritual Imprint
These are just some of the known scientific consequences of porn. This doesn’t even cover the spiritual ramifications that porn has on our psyche and what we are manifesting in our lives.
With reproduction being hardwired in our DNA as our top job, orgasm is the MOST powerful natural reinforcer that we have. Being so, our brain automatically tries to remember everything associated with this powerful experience, like an imprint. What it is doing is linking that big moment of climax with whatever you are experiencing in that moment and imprints it into your brain and psyche stronger than any other day to day experience. In the case of regular porn uses it is imprinting voyeurism, searching/seeking, endless novelty, fetishes, multiple porn stars, multiple tabs, strange acts, fear, pain, shock, surprise, anxiety, etc.
To sum it up, this is what porn provides to you:
A disillusioned version of what sex is and should be.
Unlimited supply of novelty that drives your brain to become addicted to newness.
An elevation of dopamine for abnormally long periods of time creating addiction and depletion in your brain.
A boost of stress hormones & neurotransmitters due to negative emotional states that porn induces.
Negative associations of arousal making healthy intimacy difficult.
Instead
If not porn then what? Remember that thing we call The Imagination? Remember creating entire worlds and characters with the imagination when you were young? Well if you are lucky enough to have been born after 1995 then you should still have cultivated the part of the brain when you were a child.
In one study it was found that children that were read to often had healthy development in the frontal lobe and occipital lobe, responsible for imagination. However children that were mainly engaged in screen time showed little to no development in those regions of the brain.
Why do we want to cultivate the imagination?
An interesting consequence revealed by the study showed was that children and adults that do not have an active imagination lose the power of creation. If one cannot imagine a better future, one cannot create it. If one cannot imagine who they wish to be, they will never become that. In essence you have a race of beings perfectly programmed to do as they are told without question, without the ability to imagine anything beyond what is right in front of them. This ties in very closely with the concepts of manifestation and law of attraction. Think about it!
Pleasure Rituals
As I have discussed before, the most powerful time of creation and manifestation can be done during our self pleasure rituals. Imagine what you are sending out into the universe when you release to the imagery of a woman being demeaned, disempowered and abused versus creating within the mind your godliness being with a woman of strength, power and beauty. What you manifest depends greatly on what you are consuming and putting out into the universe. Check out my blog: 5 ANCIENT TANTRIC TECHNIQUES TO HELP YOU FUCK LIKE A GOD for amazing sexual mastery techniques that you can incorporate into your pleasure rituals.
Mission
One of my missions is to help people remove the need to seek porn for gratification, as a replacement for human connection and as a way to fill the emptiness they may feel inside. Imagine how different your brain, your relationships and the larger picture of your life would be if you could reach a point where you no longer sought out porn. If you would like to discuss more ways of creating a porn-free life, please reach out.
SOLO TANTRA- Do I need a partner? Awakening the Divine Feminine.
Interview with Ravyn Ryder by The Soul Doctor, Rebecca Dettman
TOPICS COVERED:
►The science of Tantra-Osho
►Invitation to get deeper into breath, consciousness, presence and sacredness
►What is tantra? The ancient art of love making
►Tantra covers yoga, astrology, dance, geometry, crystals and many other things
►The gateway-The Yoni
►Lovemaking should be a meditation
►First thing to master-the ability to make love to ourselves
►Finding a relationship between you and your energy system
► Upper and lower chakras
►Solo Tantra
►Medibation- Meditation + Masturbation
►Removing stimuli and need for porn
►Becoming present with your body
►Self practices
►Amrita- Female ejaculation
►What is tantra-A system, a philosophy and a technology
►Comes from: Tibetan Buddhism, Tarot, Taosim, kabbalah, Ancient Egyptian Cults, Christanity, Vedas, Upanishads, Tattvas, Gunas, Lingas, Kundalini, Nadis, Chakras
►Shiva and Shakti energy, Masculine and Feminine, Yang and Yin
►Stripping layer that cover our true selves
►Yab-Yum practice
►Full body connection-Turning off the monkey chatter
►Being vulnerable in front of a partner
►Trusting a partner to see you
►Men need women but women do not need men
►Women-the goddess incarnate, mother earth, cosmic birth, the mystery of God here on earth in human form, wild essence of pure cosmic energy, birth the god in every man
►Serpents and sex-snake energy
►Man’s innate knowing-knows he has no real way of experiencing pure yin energy, the mystery of the cosmos except through a woman
►Woman-She must be wild, passionate and untamed because it is her nature as an embodiment of power. Manifestation of maya naturally containing endless secrets.
►Becoming the spiritual grade of the man you sleep with- we must be protective gate-keepers of our yonis
►Perfect Tantric balance
Rebecca Dettman: www.SoulDoctorShow.com
WHAT IS BONDASSAGE?
TOPICS COVERED:
►What is Bondassage?
►Is it BDSM?
►What is medibation?
►Becoming present and one with your body
►Sensory Deprivation
►Upgrading the BDSM and Kink world
►Professional Dominatrix
►Letting go of control
Interview with Ravyn Ryder by Tantra Punk
Bondassage® created by Jaeleen Bennis
TOPICS COVERED:
►What is Bondassage?
►Is it BDSM?
►What is medibation?
►Becoming present and one with your body
►Sensory Deprivation
►Upgrading the BDSM and Kink world
►Professional Dominatrix
►Letting go of control
Tantra Punk: www.TantraPunk.com
Bondassage: www.Bondassage.com
EROTIC ARTS TRAINING ► Body Ryding with Ravyn Ryder
TOPICS COVERED:
►Madonna–whore complex
►The feminine becoming our most sexually aligned
►The Wild Woman
►What is Body Ryding?
►Empowering your own sexuality
►Finding your inner Sensual Domme
►Horizontal dance
►Learning how to give a sensual massage
►Return to earth the divine feminine
Interview with Ravyn Ryder by The Soul Doctor, Rebecca Dettman
TOPICS COVERED:
►Madonna–whore complex
►The feminine becoming our most sexually aligned
►The Wild Woman
►What is Body Ryding?
►Empowering your own sexuality
►Finding your inner Sensual Domme
►Horizontal dance
►Learning how to give a sensual massage
►Return to earth the divine feminine
Ravyn Ryder: www.RavynRyder.com
Rebecca Dettman: www.TheSoulDoctorShow.com
WHAT IS A TANTRIC MASSAGE? ► Lingam Massage
TOPICS COVERED:
►What is tantric massage
►What is lingam massage
►What happens in a tantric massage session
►Creating a sacred relationship with sex
►Unlearning
►The art of seduction
►Erogenous zones
►How to become an erotic artist
►How to learn tantra
Interview with Ravyn Ryder by The Soul Doctor Rebecca Dettman.
TOPICS COVERED:
►What is tantric massage
►What is lingam massage
►What happens in a tantric massage session
►Creating a sacred relationship with sex
►Unlearning
►The art of seduction
►Erogenous zones
►How to become an erotic artist
►How to learn tantra
Rebecca Dettman: www.TheSoulDoctorShow.com
WHAT IS EROTIC HYPNOSSAGE?
In this episode I’m joined by the illustrious and alluring Ravyn Ryder, a highly accomplished guidess of so many things pleasurable, shamanic, entrepreneurial and much more. In this episode we do a bit of an experiment whereby I volunteer to help beta test her innovative therapeutic modality involving eroticized hypnosis for healing. We catch up a bit on her endeavors, commiserate about the need for healers to do self-care, then she facilitates my opening up about deep childhood trauma, ill-fated sexual initiations, negative hard wiring through early stages of masturbation, how I may be able to use hypnosis techniques to re-parent myself retroactively, and much more.
Interview with Ravyn Ryder by Tantra Punk
FROM TANTRA PUNK WEBSITE: In this episode I’m joined by the illustrious and alluring Ravyn Ryder, a highly accomplished guidess of so many things pleasurable, shamanic, entrepreneurial and much more. In this episode we do a bit of an experiment whereby I volunteer to help beta test her innovative therapeutic modality involving eroticized hypnosis for healing. We catch up a bit on her endeavors, commiserate about the need for healers to do self-care, then she facilitates my opening up about deep childhood trauma, ill-fated sexual initiations, negative hard wiring through early stages of masturbation, how I may be able to use hypnosis techniques to re-parent myself retroactively, and much more.
This was a bit of a preliminary session in that it was mostly for me to open up to her so that she could take my input and go back to her alchemical laboratory formulate a program customized for my exact needs. So this is technically part one of what may be a multi-part series where she demonstrates the scope of her offering. I, of course am thrilled and honored to be blessed with this opportunity to be a part of her creative evolution, and I’ve been wanting to explore the hypnosis field much more as my experience has been minimal to date.
The hope is that our spelunking the sexual underworld and taking a proactive and constructive approach to confronting the collective subconsciousness of rape culture will lead to healing and transformation for all victims, perpetrators, and the future generations.
Please visit her website and check out her recent blog post on the effects of porn:
https://ravynryder.com/spirituallyscientificsexblog/effectsofporn
Tantra Punk: www.TantraPunk.com
5 Reasons Why You Will Love a Milking Table
The verdict is in. Across the board everyone loves the Milking Table. But with my ever curious, analytical mind, I wants to know why!
I have been getting a lot of play time in with my custom made milking table and am just loving it. New to the concept of a Milking Table? Let me explain.
The verdict is in. Across the board everyone loves the Milking Table. But with my ever curious, analytical mind, I want to know why!
I have been getting a lot of play time in with my custom made milking table and am just loving it. New to the concept of a Milking Table? Let me explain.
What is a Milking Table?
A Milking Table is a massage table with a strategically placed hole where the groin would be. You can do a google search to see the sexy possibilities of what a milking table has to offer. Most of what you will see if a woman giving a man a BJ under the table. Of course this is super hot but there is so much more to a milking table and the possibilities are endless.
But what makes it so amazing?
With the “research” that I have done, this is what I have concluded:
The feeling of complete surrender.
When having sex, a man is usually taking a very active role. Being on your stomach gives you a feeling of complete surrender as you have no choice but to release into a very passive role. Even with regular sensual massage, many people feel like they should be doing something. They might be thinking, “Where should my hands go? Where should I look? What should I be doing?” It is very hard for most people to completely let go. In this position, with the weightlessness of your body face down, you are able to completely relax into your pleasure.
The fact that it is just different.
We all like to experience different things. Anything that gives the body a unique experience makes the senses squeal with delight. Most people have never experienced a release while on their stomach. One friend said it was like nothing he had ever felt before. Oh how I wish I fucking knew what that meant, but I do not have a cock! So lucky you!
I’m convinced that almost double the amount of ejaculation comes out.
This is an interesting one! I am sure that if you are lucky enough to experience an orgasm on a milking table that you will ejaculate more. It seriously just keeps cuming and cuming and cuming! ;) I’m a little baffled by this one but attribute it to gravity. Like a cow (sorry for the comparison) you are literally being milked so every last drop is able to be squeezed right out.
Mirror placement.
Not only are my play friends in a passive role where they don’t have to do anything, but they also get a little show. Due to my strategically placed mirror, with just a tilt of their head, they can see everything happening below. And there is a lot of fun stuff going on down there!
Me!
As an artist in the realm of erotism, there is no challenge that I can’t conquer. The milking table was new to me for like 1 minute. Quickly I figured out the most sensually strategic ways to incorporate different strokes and movements with and around the hole. So if you are doing home play with a milking table with your woman, send her to me first to learn all the tricks and trades in creating an experience that is amazingly seductively and erotic!
Whether we get to play together or you know someone else with a Milking Table, it is a must try for every man! If you have experienced it and have any other insights or additions to my conclusions, please share!
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How Routines Create a Better Sex Life
I have never considered myself a morning person. In fact, I would often refer to those first daylight hours as my ‘mourning.’ Now I can say, thankfully that I am no longer a ‘mourning’ person! I credit my new love of mornings simply to: A commitment to a planned ROUTINE.
“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” Benjamin franklin
When the brain is tired, weak, or just plain out of it, it should not be responsible for making rational decisions. Putting routines and plans into place takes the weak decision making process out of the mix. As all other mammal species we still carry many animalistic traits within our being. We crave direction, goals, rewards and consequences. But unlike most trained animals, we are capable of training ourselves. We can put into place simple routines, rewards and consequences (most consequences come as a result of poor actions, not actual discipline) that can positively set up our day... month... year... life!
A routine is essentially a goal. One that, once achieved, can lead to a host of future goals that can shape the success of your life and positively impact those around you. But a morning routine doesn’t just start the moment you wake up. No good morning routine is complete without a corresponding evening routine. Setting up a plan for the morning by going to sleep in a healthy productive fashion is essential for the follow-through of your morning routine.
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”~Tony Robbins
What happens when you DO NOT have a morning routine?
You might go out and have a few drinks. You get to bed later than usual. You would like to go to the gym but since you are going to bed late, ‘you will see how you feel in the morning,’ which as we know, almost always ends up being a no. You wake up groggy and decide that the snooze button is more important than the health of your body. Your foggy and tired brain tells you to just leave the house and pick up a coffee and bagel on the way to work. Now you are over-caffeinated, under-hydrated and although you are trying to rationalize that going out and having fun is a great part of life, you are silently criticizing yourself for not going to the gym, for eating shitty and for falling into the trap of “average.” You then go home to your partner feeling like a loser after having beat yourself up for most of the day due to your lack of willpower. You do not feel sexy, you do not feel motivated, and in no way do you feel like having animalistic, passionate, mind-blowing sex!
Unfortunately when you make average decisions you get average results. The average person will chose to pick up a beer instead of a book. The average person will chose to watch TV when they get home instead of make love to their partner. The average person will go out to eat instead of making a healthy lunch. The average person will settle for average!
“If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.”~Tony Robbins
Failure is a part of success. This is the difference between an average person and a successful person. The average person is often too afraid of failure to ever get to success. To succeed at failure is a closer step to success. It can take many failure to get to an accomplishment of a steady routine. I know for myself, my monkey demon mind won many times before I finally told it to shut the fuck up. But once you finally take hold of the reins, one success turns into another, turns into another, turns into every dream you have becoming a reality.
Success consists of going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm. – Winston Churchill
But remember that perfection is not what we are striving for here! We are only human and the constant continuation of anything will most certainly lead to utter boredom! So do not be hard on yourself if you just don’t feel like it one day. It certainly can be nourishing for the soul to occasionally sleep in, snuggle up and binge on some Netflix, or indulge on a delicious treat. Focus on what you mostly do, not on what you sometimes do!
How does this relate to sex?
The way you feel about yourself directly relates to the way you show up in the bedroom. When are you most likely in the mood for long, sensual, intimate love-making? I’m not talking about the roll-on top quickie. I’m talking about the type of sex that leaves you drenched, sore, connected, and completely satisfied. Is it after you downed 2 beers and 3 pieces of pizza or is if after you had a fulfilling successful day, ate healthy and just got done at the gym? We all know the answer. No need to be redundant.
What happens when you DO have a morning routine?
You come home from work with a goal to not turn on the TV, to not waste time on social media, and to be present with yourself and those around you. You make a healthy dinner and create a calm atmosphere for the rest of the evening. Maybe you take some time to work on an artistic project that you have been putting off. Maybe you practice an instrument that you have been wanting to learn. Maybe you take some time to read to your kids or help them with their homework. Maybe you draw your spouse a bath and give them a relaxing a massage. You finish the night by giving your body some self love with whatever hygienic night time rituals you have. You remove all electronics from the bedroom, dive into a book or mediation and fall into a deep, relaxing, restorative sleep. You then wake completely refreshed. You make your bed, you wash your face and brush your teeth, you stretch and complete a few sun salutations and then proceed to follow whatever routine you have committed to. Write this routine down. Tell somebody else so that you can be accountable. What will follow? A happy day, a happy wife, a happy life! The previous evening was relaxing and possibly a prep for a future evening of erotic, sensual or downright raunchy fornication! Winning!
So what does my morning routine consist of?
I have to remember that I can be completely selfish in my morning routine as I have absolutely no responsibility to children, pets or a spouse. So I understand that much of what my routine consists of may not be a possibility for most. It is not meant to be emulated, just to simply take note of. So here it is:
In the evening, I try to be home and done with work and social activities by 8pm. I make sure my day consists of fulfilling, healthy, whole foods. I turn my phone off at 9pm and put it in a drawer. I spend the rest of the evening reading, doing self-massage, medibating, practicing a trade, stretching my body, dabbling in the esoteric arts, or other weird shit that is better left unsaid! I go to sleep by 11:30pm. I set an old fashion alarm clock, since all electronics are left out of my room, and wake by 7:30am. I do not snooze and write in a dream journal as soon as my eyes open and I can recall the subconscious mind’s evening events. Then I spend at least an hour doing yoga or meditating and commit to not looking at my phone until after such activities are complete. I answer some emails, texts, messages and schedule my day. I proceed with breakfast and showering. Then I’m off to my studio in preparation for a day of beautifully channeled erotic magick!
The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion. – Paulo Coelho
The success of your life choices lead to an ecstatic sex life AND an ecstatic sex life leads to successful life choices. Sex is often not talked about by motivational speakers. It is a shadow that stays hidden, only to be revealed in the bedroom. But sex is life and a successful life begins and ends with the way we show up intimately with others as well as ourselves. How will you show up and how committed can you be to making the choices that make you a lion and not a sheep, in and out of the bedroom!?
WHAT IS SUBDROP? (PART II)
As one starts to come down from subspace the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in and the body stops producing the morphine like chemicals that activated the prior high. This can crash the body and mind in a way that may be perceived as negative or scary but is actually just your body physically and emotionally recovering.
SUBDROP
I don’t like to see any experience as right or wrong, good or bad, they are just simply--experiences. After intense scenes or body play sessions where people go into subspace (refer to this blog post for more about subspace) one can experience what is referred to as subdrop. My opinion is that the more we educate ourselves and are ensured that what we are feeling is common, subdrop doesn’t have to be seen as negative consequence, yet it can be seen as a necessary outcome that the body and spirit must experience as a comedown from such a magically high space.
So what exactly is subdrop?
As one starts to come down from subspace the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in and the body stops producing the morphine like chemicals that activated the prior high. This can crash the body and mind in a way that may be perceived as negative or scary but is actually just your body physically and emotionally recovering.
Symptoms can include:
(Immediate)
Incoherence
Out-of-body feeling
Dizziness
Lethargy
Drop in temperature
Lack of coordination
(Later)
Exhaustion
Depression
Guilt
Loneliness
It is important to remember that this is a natural chemical response that your body may go through and to take proper measurements to give yourself plenty of self-care and love until you are feeling balanced again.
How to Avoid Subdrop
I hate to use the word avoid, as it indicates that one must avoid the above mentioned symptoms but I do put practices into place to reduce or eliminate such effects when possible.
First it is important to know that much of what I do will not send you into an emotional upheaval. Most of my sessions are more relaxing and meditative in nature, which can incite a gentler subspace following little to no subdrop. However, I believe that everyone gets the experience that they need and some people may be called to go higher. As the laws of physics exist on this plane, what goes up must come down.
After a session, I bring the sub down very slowly, giving them time to integrate back into their body and the space around them. I try not to encourage too much talking as many people feel incoherent and aren’t able to fully process what is going on. After a slow transition, a nice shower, and some chocolate most people are refreshed and able to go on with their day. Some prefer to take it easy, giving their body and mind time to relax. Also, I am always available for processing, questions, concerns or feedback later that day or the next day if needed.
Finally, a big part of my sessions, which I have found to profoundly impact the increase of subspace and the decrease of subdrop, is the use of Binaural Beat and Solfeggio Frequencies.
*Learn more about Binaural Beat and Solfeggio Frequencies in this blog
WHAT IS BONDASSAGE® SUBSPACE? (PART I)
Subspace is also a term coined by the BDSM community meaning an altered state of consciousness, mainly achieved by a bottom/submissive through physical sensory pleasure or pain, psychological scene play or both.
Subspace Origin
Where did the word subspace come from? Subspace is a scientific and mathematical term but interestingly, was later popularized by the writers of Star Trek. In the series Star Trek subspace is a form of interstellar travel or way of transmitting information via faster than light travel technology.
Later, Courtney Brown, Ph.D., professor of political science and statistics at the University of Georgia in Atlanta redefined the term as, “separating the physical from the nonphysical realms without imposing a more rigorous view of dimensional complexity on either of those realms.” (p. 22, Remote Viewing: The Science and Theory of Nonphysical Perception)
To expand further on Brown’s definition, he then implies that while in subspace one can not only reach higher states of consciousness in different realms but that one can also reach other dimensional beings. “An aspect of each of us exists in subspace, as do other beings. People who no longer reside in our physical space “live” in subspace. It is not accurate to say that these are “dead” people, since they are very much alive.” (p. 43, Cosmic Voyage) Basically Brown is saying that subspace is the space between the physical and the non-physical world. Trippy right!?
Other words relating to subspace
Akasha
There are many other relative words that can be described as a similar space to subspace, one being Akasha. The Akashic records are a widely known dimension in which all of the records of the past are imprinted. However, the origin of Akasha basically translates to “subtle space.” It is a place accessible by the mind, in between realms, where higher consciousness and knowledge can be obtained.
Floating World
Another word that I am drawn to in this regard is Ukiyo. The Japanese word Ukiyo translates to “Floating World” and was popularized in the Edo-period Japan (1600–1867). Ukiyo was not only a concept but also a district that inhabited the most erotic and hedonist brothels of the time.
But the origin of the word, as it insinuates, translates further to "transient world" of Buddhist tradition. It became of word known to describe a hedonistic, carefree, extravagant, naughty type of lifestyle; a space between reality and fantasy.
"Living only for the moment, savouring the moon, the snow, the cherry blossoms, and the maple leaves, singing songs, drinking sake, and diverting oneself just in floating, unconcerned by the prospect of imminent poverty, buoyant and carefree, like a gourd carried along with the river current: this is what we call ukiyo." ("Tales of the Floating World", c. 1661)
Eroto-comatose lucidity
One term that particularly fascinates me, Eroto-comatose lucidity, is a sex magic ritual originally created by Aleister Crowley in 1912. The book Modern Sex Magick: Secrets of Erotic Spirituality describes the ritual and how to reach Eroto-comatose lucidity:
“A common form of the ritual uses repeated sexual stimulation (but not to physical orgasm) to place the individual in a state between full sleep and full wakefulness as well as exhaustion, allowing the practitioner to commune with their god.”
“In the first part of the ritual, the aides seek repeatedly both to arouse the ritualist sexually as well as to exhaust him.”
“In the second part of the ritual, the aides seek to come close to awakening the ritualist through sexual stimulation alone. Most practitioners agree with Crowley that every means of arousal may be used, such as physical stimulation, genital stimulation, psychological stimulation, devices (such as sex toys), or drugs (an entheogen like hashish, marijuana, or other aphrodisiacs).”
“The goal is not to fully awaken her or him, but rather to bring them to the brink of wakefulness.”
“This step is repeated indefinitely until the ritualist reaches a state between sleep and wakefulness in which communing with a higher power may occur. The ritualist may also conduct spiritual work while in this state, or witness mystical events.”
THE VERSION RELATIVE TO YOU-Submissive SUBSPACE Definition
Okay, now that a little historical background has been given, I will get into the meaning of the subspace that I primarily will be referring to. Subspace is also a term coined by the BDSM community meaning an altered state of consciousness, mainly achieved by a bottom/submissive through physical sensory pleasure or pain, psychological scene play or both.
So why does subspace occur?
It is quite scientific when fully examined. When the body is overloaded with a host of different sensations, whether pleasurable or painful, the body goes into a state of fight or flight. When our body perceives this sort of overload it triggers a sympathetic nervous system response which releases numerous chemicals. These chemicals mainly consist of adrenaline, endorphins, and enkephalins (primarily released during painful scenes and acts as a natural pain reliever).
Because these chemicals can act on the brain in the same way as morphine or psychedelic drugs, it can induce a trance like state. During this trance one may feel many different things including:
Out of body experience
Enhanced sensory perception
Decreased sensory perception
Feeling of floating
Feeling of a connection with a higher consciousness
Ability to recall past memories or past lives
Ability to connect with deceased loved ones
Any of these states can produce a huge shift in consciousness as well as feelings of great euphoria and bliss. However, as the high subsides (this can occur immediately or hours or days later) the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in which can induce exhaustion, lethargy and even temporary depression. *This reaction called subdrop and is discussed in this blog post.
Why are we discussing this??
This state of consciousness is very relevant to the sessions that I offer, especially when it comes to my Bondassage and Elysium sessions. To easily reach subspace the use of headphones and a blindfold, which is standard in any Bondassage session, is essential! By creating an atmosphere free of distraction, through the use of specifically selected musical beats and sensory deprivation, the mind and body are free to let go into a world rarely experienced.
However, not everyone can reach this state. It is not guaranteed nor should it be an expectation.
Spiritual Subspace
As Aleister Crowley wrote, as well as other mystics and shamans throughout time, sex magic or intense sensory stimulation has been used for centuries to reach higher states of consciousness.
Subspace can be a very spiritual experience. Depending on the participant, subspace can either be simply a chemically induced body response or it could be small proof that indeed there is more than the small existence that we know to be our reality.
There are several aspects that are necessary in order to fall deep into a subspace realm. Whether through conscious thoughts/actions or a subconscious awareness one must:
Be grounded and relaxed (I take time to do basic energy work prior to starting a session in an effort to ground and relax my subs)
Feel like they are in a safe space (I have spent much time and effort creating a space that is beautifully magically. I also take the time to do clearings to create an energetically safe environment.)
Feel safe with a partner or practitioner (One of my main jobs is to ensure that all of my subs feel safe and loved during their time with me)
Be willing to let go (The need to have control is the leading cause that inhibits clients from reaching subspace, especially the first time. However after several sessions the process becomes easier.)
Keep an open mind (Those that have some sort of awareness that certainly there are dimensions beyond our 3D world are more likely to feel comfortable navigating beyond our reality. Those having experience with any sort of hallucinogen are familiar with this concept. From a shaman point of view, the belief is that there is a lower world, a middle world (that in which we reside) and an upper world. Experienced travelers are better able to navigate between worlds.)
However, I have seen anxious, logical minded, inexperienced subs, to my surprise, go into subspace. This is always exciting for me because they come out of a session with a shift in consciousness that can leave them questioning the world around us for the better.
Whether you see subspace as simply a chemically influenced body response or you see it as small proof that indeed there is something beyond our perceived reality, it can be fucking awesome! So what are you waiting for? Let’s give it a try!
Binaural Beats and Solfeggio Frequencies to induce Subspace and decrease Subdrop during BONDASSAGE® (PART III)
In this day and age, technology can be an amazing tool to aid in the progression of our evolutionary state. Throughout ancient times scientists and mystics alike have preached the benefits of certain frequencies and beats, claiming that once we have tuned our own frequency to the original state of resonance, we are then capable of coming into our god-like beings, finding the key to the universe.
Binaural Beats and Solfeggio Frequencies to induce Subspace and decrease Subdrop
In my own meditative practices I have used many methods to reach higher states of consciousness including sex magick, plant medicines, neurofeedback, dance, drumming, and more recently, binaural beats and solfeggio frequencies.
In this day and age, technology can be an amazing tool to aid in the progression of our evolutionary state. Throughout ancient times scientists and mystics alike have preached the benefits of certain frequencies and beats, claiming that once we have tuned our own frequency to the original state of resonance, we are then capable of coming into our god-like beings, finding the key to the universe.
What are binaural beats?
The Immrama Institute states:
“Binaural beats were originally discovered in 1839 by physicist Heinrich Wilhelm Dove. He discovered when signals of two different frequencies are presented separately, one to each ear, your brain detects the phase variation between the frequencies and tries to reconcile that difference.
"In doing so, as the two frequencies mesh in and out of phase, your brain creates its own third signal — called a binaural beat — which is equal to the difference between those two frequencies.”
“For example, if a frequency of 100 Hz is presented to your left ear, and a frequency of 105 Hz is presented to your right ear, your brain “hears” a third frequency pulsing at 5 Hz, the exact difference between the two frequencies.”
“Research has proven that introducing a binaural beat will cause the brain to begin resonating in tune with that beat. By creating a binaural beat at 10 Hz — an Alpha frequency — you can trigger your brain to resonate at that same 10 Hz frequency, automatically inducing brain activity in the Alpha range. This same technique can be used to quickly and easily guide your mind into any state.” (Immrama Institute)
“By matching the maps with the changes that occur with [binaural beats], they can, quite literally at the flick of a switch, make one’s mind resonate mechanically like that of a great seer or mystic who has spent a lifetime exploring the boundaries of consciousness. The Monroe Institute’s most interesting achievement is the discovery of a set of frequencies that allows individuals to perceive an area of nonphysical existence where life thrives.” (p. 43, Cosmic Voyage)
What are Solfeggio Frequencies?
Attuned Vibrations states:
“Solfeggio frequencies make up the ancient 6-tone scale thought to have been used in sacred music, including the beautiful and well known Gregorian Chants. The chants and their special tones were believed to impart spiritual blessings when sung in harmony. Each Solfeggio tone is comprised of a frequency required to balance your energy and keep your body, mind and spirit in perfect harmony.”
“Our modern day musical scale is out of sync when compared with the original Solfeggio scale. According to Joachim Ernst-Berendt, the 12-Tone Equal Temperament mistunes all consonant intervals except the octave. Our modern scale can create situations such ‘boxed-in’ thinking, stuffed and suppressed emotions, fear-based or lack consciousness, all of which then tend to manifest into physical symptoms called ‘dis-ease’ or disease.” (Attuned Vibrations)
“According to entries from the original Apocrypha, these original frequencies are believed to be effective in; turning grief to joy, undoing situations and facilitating change, helping a person connect with Source to bring forth miracles, repairing DNA, connecting with spiritual family and understanding relationships, becoming more expressive to solve problem situations, and finally, awakening intuition to return to spiritual order. Through sound, these tones can assist energy channels to stay open and keep the life force (Chi) flowing freely through the chakra system.” (Sol Awakening)
How do I apply these tones to my sessions?
Sensory deprivation, with the use of a blindfold and headphones plays an important role in the ability for my subs to let go and go into a magical, pleasure produced subspace. Music through the delivery of high-end headphones goes a long way in this process.
To get the benefit of binaural beats one must use headphones as it produces different frequencies in each ear, enabling the brain to adjust to the alpha frequency range. With the addition of solfeggio frequencies the results may take you to a different state of consciousness as well as being capable of producing numerous physical and psychological healing benefits.
“According to neuroscientists, the effect of decreasing the brain rhythm from beta to alpha via deep relaxation techniques and the use of binaural beats brain entrainment, changes the levels of certain beneficial brain chemicals significantly increasing beta-endorphin, norepinephrine and dopamine.” (Zen Lama)
As adrenaline, endorphins and enkephalins are depleted from the body during subspace, the increase of beta-endorphin, norepinephrine and dopamine during a binaural beat induced alpha state could contribute to the greater occurrence of subspace and lower occurrence of subdrop.
Other benefits include:
Features and Benefits of an Alpha State
Brain hemispheres becoming naturally synchronized, or in-phase with each other
Less absent-minded awareness and daydreaming
Remembrance of our dreams and meditative states
Conscious and subconscious link-- gateway to meditation.
Receptivity to casual and auto-suggestions (hypnosis state)
Increased vividness enhancing creative visualization and imagination
Increased memory retention, concentration & focus for super learning
Health benefits include:
Reduction of anxiety
Reduction of stress and depression
Reduction of chronic pain
Lowers high blood pressure
Increase in athletic performance
Increase in cerebral blood flow
Increase in motivation, energy, and happiness
Whether the use of binaural beats and solfeggio frequencies can beneficially affect your subspace is not guaranteed as everybody is different and no scientific studies have been conducted to conclusively prove this. This is simply a theory of mine through the observation of those that I have had the pleasure of working with. All I know for sure is that technology, like most things, can be used for good or bad. This is one example of how technology can lend a helping hand towards the accelerated advancement of our consciousness. But there is only one way to find out for sure...give it a try!
